Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®)
Because letting go isn’t just practical—it’s personal.
You might not be planning a move right now. Yet for most of us who are lucky enough to live a long life, the day comes when home maintenance starts to feel more like hard work. Whether that moment is approaching or still years away, many of us look around and realize we’ve gathered a lifetime of stuff. And while much of it holds meaning, sorting through it can feel overwhelming—physically and emotionally.
Even when the reasons to rightsize are positive—like simplifying your lifestyle, reducing expenses, or moving closer to family—those changes can stir up fear and resistance. There are many reasons people hesitate to declutter, and all of them are valid. Some worry, “What if I regret letting something go?” or tell themselves, “I’ll deal with it later.” Others are unsure of an item’s value—asking, “Is it worth anything?” or “What if someone in the family wants it?” Sentimental items can be especially difficult to part with, as they often carry the memory of a loved one or a meaningful chapter of life. For those who’ve lived through periods of scarcity, holding on to things “just in case” can feel wise and necessary. There’s also the emotional weight of gifts and inherited items—letting go can feel like dishonouring the person who gave them. And for many, these belongings are deeply tied to identity, whether it’s a past career, a lifelong hobby, or a role once held in the family. On top of all that, the sheer scope of the task can feel overwhelming, making it hard to even know where to start.
But there’s power in starting small—and starting now. Tackling things little by little gives you more control over your future and relieves pressure on your family later on.
Letting go doesn’t erase the past—it honours it. You are not your stuff. And memories don’t live in objects alone. Take a photo of something meaningful and jot down the story it holds. Share those stories with loved ones. Keep what you use or truly love, and let the rest go with gratitude. Now is a wonderful time to start gifting meaningful items to friends and family. Let your loved ones know you're beginning to pare down your belongings, and invite them to share if there's something they would like to have—either now or in the future. If you are not ready to gift it yet, consider labelling it with their name using masking tape and placing it underneath. It’s a simple gesture that helps ensure special pieces stay connected to the people who will appreciate them most. My husband’s grandmother had done this with a painting he unexpectedly inherited—now proudly displayed at our entrance, it’s a daily reminder of her thoughtfulness.
A few simple, practical steps can help you begin. Block 30 minutes in your calendar—maybe once a week, every other week, or once a month. Whatever works for your pace. I’ve heard of people who invite a friend or family member to join in, not just to help sort but to reminisce and celebrate the journey as you go.
One easy way to start is get 5 boxes or bins. Write on each one “TOSS” “KEEP” ”SELL” “GIFT and “NOT SURE.” You don’t have to finish decluttering your house in a day! In fact I don’t recommend more than 30 minutes to an hour at a time. Tackle a small job, like an entrance way, top of a dresser, side entrance or bathroom drawer! If you think certain items may have value, consider getting them appraised and insured.
In next month’s newsletter will share ideas on how to efficiently use these five boxes to keep momentum going from room to room.
If the thought of decluttering feels overwhelming, you're not alone—and you don’t have to do it by yourself. I’d be happy to connect you with trusted professional organizers who share a compassionate, thoughtful approach and can support you every step of the way.
