A common misconception is that retirement communities are only for people who are too frail to care for themselves. Many people hesitate to make a move because of worries about the process, or because of outdated misconceptions about retirement residences and downsizing in general. Many have bad memories of visiting their parents or grandparents in “old folks homes.” The truth is, you probably have more options than you realize, and having the right guidance can help you navigate the next chapter. There are a variety of retirement residence options to choose from.
Moving to a new home when we’re younger often feels exciting. Yet when it comes to moving when older emotions can be more complicated. Leaving behind a home you’ve known for years, along with cherished belongings, can create a sense of loss. On top of that, the idea of perhaps needing help and adjusting to a new environment can feel overwhelming. These feelings are completely normal, and it’s important to acknowledge them as part of the process. However, by focusing on the benefits of the move, gathering the right information, and finding support, you can approach this move with greater confidence.
If retirement community living is a consideration it doesn’t mean giving up your independence—it can be the opposite! Many people find that moving into a retirement community actually frees them from the burdens of home maintenance, leaving more time for relaxation and enjoyment and peace of mind. With less space to keep tidy, no yard work to worry about, with everything taken care of, one can enjoy your home without the daily upkeep and worry.
In a retirement community, you get to choose how you spend your time. You can stay as busy as you like, making new friends and participating in activities, or you can enjoy your private lifestyle, it’s your choice. And your friends and family are always welcome to visit, most communities have spacious dining areas where you can host gatherings without worrying about cooking or cleaning up afterward!
If you’re in good health and need little or no assistance with daily activities, an independent living community might be the right fit for you. These communities offer a safe, secure environment with ample amenities and social activities. Many independent living communities are located walking distance to shops and services, and your own secured parking spot. You have the freedom to live your life as you choose, with the added peace of mind that support is there when your needs change over time.
For those who need occasional assistance, independent supportive living or assisted living may be more appropriate. These communities provide extra help with daily activities like meals, medication, and personal care. There is also long-term care and memory care communities designed for individuals who require very specific care.
Is it ridiculous to think it’s too early to start planning? No! Let me share a story with you. I was referred (most of my clients are word of mouth and referral) to a couple in their early 80s who had lived in their home for over 40 years. They knew they needed to make some decisions—decluttering, dealing with an oil tank in the yard, and exploring their next steps. They had their eye on a lovely retirement community down the hill where many of their friends had moved. But since aging in place was still working for them, they always figured they’d “get around to going on a tour.” They did joke: “Janet, they’re going to take us out of here in a pine box.” Sound familiar? We’ve all heard it before. But let’s be real. That “pine box” is, most likely going to be an ambulance. According to Statistics Canada 85% of senior hospitalizations are due to a fall! And a third of those individuals never return home. Instead, they might move in with family, transition to senior living, or face even tougher outcomes. And that’s just the reported falls! I stayed in touch with this couple over a couple of years, providing information and resources—help for the oil tank, retirement community details, and check-ins. But nothing changed.
Then, one day, I got a call—from their son. His mother had fallen a month prior, and his father’s health was rapidly declining. Suddenly, they couldn’t live alone. The son, trying to do what was best, had arranged for them to move into a retirement community—two hours away, near him and his family.
When we all met at the family home, I saw exactly what you’d expect. Their son looked exhausted, juggling his parents’ situation, his own family, and his job. The parents? Overwhelmed. Angry. Decisions were being made for them, not by them. And to add to the stress, when the oil tank was finally removed, contamination was found, delaying the home sale for months. Their son had to handle it all, hoping he was making choices his parents would have wanted. Is it ridiculous to think this could have been avoided? No! It’s not a matter of if something happens—it’s when. Planning ahead isn’t about losing independence. It’s about reducing stress, maintaining control, and ensuring that when the time comes, your wishes are honoured. No one wants to make these decisions in the middle of a crisis. And no one wants to leave their family scrambling. A proactive plan is a gift—to yourself and to those who love you. So let’s not wait for a fall, a health scare, or an emergency to start the conversation.
Start now. Because having a Plan B isn’t about giving up. It’s about taking charge of your future. I’m here to help. I am here to be your guide, trusted advisor through every step of the process. if you, a spouse or your parents are wondering if retirement living is for them, let’s talk!
As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist, my Move Management System is designed to guide you through every step of this transition. You will receive a cost analysis to help you understand the financial aspects of selling your home, so you can choose the right retirement community within your budget. We can also look at the costs of maintaining your home if you decide to age in place versus the costs of moving, including the monthly expenses of a retirement community. Being clear about these numbers will help you make informed decisions about your future.
I am happy to introduce you to estate planners and lawyers who specialize in working with older adults and their families, ensuring you have trusted professionals by your side every step of the way.
From preparing your home for sale and managing the sale process to coordinating your move and settling into your new space, I am here to support you.
Looking for a specific community or type of care in Greater Vancouver? Not sure where to start? Call me! Part of my move management service is sharing the types of care and how to choose the right one for you and connecting you directly with key contacts when you arrange your tour and even accompanying you on tours if you prefer. Ask for HELM’s GUIDE TO RETIREMENT HOME CHECKLIST, questions to ask during the tour and questions to consider after the tour. With a personalized plan, I promise I’ll be with you every step of the way to make the move easier and more manageable.
Let’s work together to create a plan that fits your needs so you can embrace this next chapter with confidence and peace of mind.