Myth: “People Will Think I’m Giving Up and Can’t Look After Myself”
Another myth I hear, one that holds people back from asking for help—whether to age successfully in their current home or make a move—may surprise you. It’s the fear of judgment—'What will people think?' They worry that they’ll be seen as dependent, or worse, a burden on family and friends. In reality, people admire a proactive approach to securing a more manageable lifestyle. 'Rightsizing' is often viewed as a smart, responsible decision—one that reflects strength, foresight, and surprisingly, it inspires others to consider their own futures with more confidence. Some of the most inspiring success stories I hear come from clients who embraced their next journey later in life as a next chapter not an end.
From my experience, I’ve seen people wait too long to make simple adjustments like removing area rugs, having grab bars professionally installed or decluttering. After a fall, is too late! Many haven’t taken the time to tour senior communities, so they don’t know what they’re really like or what the actual costs are compared to staying in their current home with support. It’s honestly sad to watch when someone’s fear of being a burden or unable to look after themselves becomes a reality simply because no changes were made or questions were asked sooner.
Myth: “I’ll Regret My Decision”
The worry of regret is another common myth. The truth is, regret doesn’t stem from moving or asking for help itself, rather from feeling like the decision was rushed or made without all the facts. With careful planning, many people find that their new living arrangements offer them more freedom, less stress, and better health outcomes. When the decision is made thoughtfully, regret simply isn’t part of the picture. When you have a plan, you are in the driver’s seat! Without a plan, decisions are rushed, and often not yours, that’s typically when regret sets in.
Myth: “ Friendships and Family Change.”
Some believe that making home lifestyle changes will alter their friendships or lifestyle. This isn’t a restart. This is your evolution, your next chapter. Moving to a new, simpler space can allow you to focus more on the things that truly bring you joy—whether that’s spending time with family, pursuing hobbies, or just enjoying a low-maintenance home. Having support at home or altering your home so you can age in place successfully doesn’t change who you are; it can help you embrace the next chapter of life with greater ease and happiness. For adult children, it's important to remember that a parent’s social habits won't automatically change with a move. If your parent has been more private , moving into a new home or community won’t necessarily make them suddenly social. Similarly, someone who has been very outgoing may not become isolated just because they moved. It’s essential to have open conversations with your parents and loved ones about their preferences and needs to ensure that the new living situation is the right fit. Remember it’s never just one conversation. For a list of conversation starters, please ask!
Myth: “Retirement Living is Too Expensive”
It’s crucial to know the cost comparisons when making decisions about aging in place or considering a move. Understanding the costs of health care support to age in place versus the costs of moving can help you plan with confidence. Knowing the numbers before making a decision is key. This includes knowing the costs to sell your home, the net proceeds after the sale, the costs of purchasing a new home or monthly costs of retirement residence now and when your health care needs change. Having a clear picture of these numbers is essential for making informed decisions about your future. When you know your numbers, you can approach the decision with a sense of certainty, ensuring that you choose the option that best suits your needs now and into the future.
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