Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

When it comes time to downsize—or, as we prefer to say at HELM, Rightsize™—one of the most emotional challenges can be letting go of items that were given to you, especially gifts from loved ones. These objects often carry deep meaning and serve as reminders of important relationships and life chapters. Yet it’s worth remembering: a gift fulfilled its purpose the moment it was given. Its value doesn’t go away just because you no longer have the space or need for it.

Holding onto something out of guilt or obligation isn’t necessary. Letting go, when done with care and intention, is not a rejection of the memory or the love behind the gift. It can be a lovely act of respect—for yourself, for the giver, and for the life you’re continuing to shape. Remember the original intention behind a gift was to bring you joy—not burden.

In my own family, I’ve seen the beauty of thoughtful giving firsthand. My dad’s 65-pound taxidermy tyee salmon, caught in the 1970s in Rivers Inlet with one of my brothers and close family friends, displayed proudly in our rec room for as long as I can remember. He recently gifted it to my brother, who now displays it at his summer home. Whenever we gather there, it sparks laughter and memories—it still brings us joy, just in a new place. My dad also plans to give each of us a fishing rod—something we can either use or display. His tennis medals, won on his own and with my mom, are still proudly shown in his home. They don’t take up much space, and they hold a lifetime of stories—especially when displayed with favourite photos of the two of them together.

A client recently shared a lovely story about her husband’s father’s pocket watch. It had already been beautifully framed, and before he passed, he chose to gift it to his nephew. I had the chance to see it hanging in their home—a quiet, striking reminder of family history and the thoughtfulness behind the gesture. These kinds of intentional gifts keep the specialness alive. But when there’s no plan in place, meaningful items like these can too easily be tossed aside or given to someone who may not truly value them—sometimes unintentionally excluding the very person who would have cherished them most.

If you’re ready to part with gifts or heirlooms, there are thoughtful ways to do so. You might offer them to someone who would genuinely enjoy or benefit from them—a friend, a neighbour, or a local community group. Many older adults find comfort in donating to causes they believe in, such as church groups or charities. Sports memorabilia, for example, might find new purpose in a local museum, community centre, clubhouse, or hall of fame—places where a forgotten trophy or jersey can go on to inspire others.

If an item holds monetary value and you’d prefer to sell it, consider consignment shops, Facebook Marketplace, or a good old-fashioned garage sale. Some families even create a “gifting table” at reunions or gatherings, where loved ones can choose an item that speaks to them. It’s a wonderful way to share stories. 

If the thought of sorting through a lifetime of belongings feels overwhelming, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to do it on your own. Professional organisers can offer both practical help and emotional support during this process. I have a trusted list of vetted professionals I’d be happy to share. As part of HELM’s 55 AND BETTER™ system, I share my list of vetted professionals and I’ll even sit in on the interview process to help ensure you choose someone who is the right fit—someone who understands your pace, respects your goals, and approaches the process with empathy and care and on your timeline. 

To Rightsize™ isn’t about erasing the past. It’s about honouring it—and choosing what tells your story best. When items are passed along with love and intention, their meaning doesn’t disappear. That’s the real gift!  

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

Throughout the Lower Mainland, communities have taken steps to help residents—especially older adults—stay cool during the summer heat. Public cooling centres, spray parks, and misting stations are available in many areas, typically located in community centres, libraries, and parks. These spaces offer a safe place to rest, hydrate, and escape the hottest part of the day. Many communities also operate seasonal spray features and wading pools, which are great for light activity or simply cooling off. Seniors are encouraged to plan any outings or movement early in the morning before temperatures climb, and to spend the afternoon hours in a cool, shaded, or air-conditioned space.

Keeping hydrated is essential, and it’s best not to wait until you feel thirsty. A steady intake of water throughout the day helps prevent dizziness, fatigue, and heat-related illnesses. Light meals, loose-fitting clothing, and using a damp cloth to cool your forehead or wrists can go a long way.

Creating a cooler home environment doesn’t always mean cranking up the AC. Drawing the blinds or curtains during the day, especially on south- or west-facing windows, can block a surprising amount of heat. Fans can help circulate that air, yet remember, fans alone don’t lower body temperature when it’s extremely hot, so it’s important to also stay hydrated and take breaks in truly cool environments.

For those looking to install air conditioning, BC Hydro is currently offering two helpful programs. From now through August 22, 2025, there’s an instant $50 rebate available on select ENERGY STAR® window and portable air conditioners purchased at major retailers. Even better, eligible seniors you may qualify for a free portable air conditioner and installation—just contact BC Hydro or check their website for all the details.

Of course, staying cool isn’t just about physical comfort—it’s also about community. If you have an elderly neighbour, friend, or family member living alone, a quick check-in during a heatwave can make a real difference. Whether it’s a phone call, a short visit, or an offer to help with groceries or errands, those small gestures can go a long way.

This summer, let’s all take a cue from the birds in the bird bath—find the shade, share the space, sip some water, and enjoy a slower pace. Because staying cool isn't just good advice—it's an act of care.

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) , I often hear: "One day we will tackle the decluttering.” “There is no rush, we will move when ready." “One day, I’ll have grab bars installed in the bathroom.” “One day, we will tour retirement communities.” Many people hold onto the hope that, at some point in the future, the perfect moment will arrive—when everything will line up and the decision to move, downsize, or make necessary home adjustments will feel clear and easy. I’m here to tell you from years of experience, there is no “perfect” time. The clouds don’t part, and a choir doesn’t sing when it’s time to act. That moment doesn’t arrive on its own, and waiting for it can leave you caught off guard when things inevitably change. It’s easy to ignore signs—whether it’s the growing difficulty in getting around a home, realizing it’s harder to keep up with daily tasks, or noticing that tasks you once did easily are becoming unsafe. The truth is, it’s often easier to pretend that everything’s fine. You don’t want to burden others, and you certainly don’t want your family or friends to feel like you’re not capable. Asking for help, planning ahead, and making decisions before a crisis forces your hand doesn’t make you weak. In fact, it puts you in control. As my mom used to say, “You’re in the driver’s seat.”  

I’m currently working with a vibrant client who's taking a proactive approach to rightsizing—we’ve explored 55+ communities, toured a retirement residence, and I’ve even had the joy of meeting their fun-loving extended family; having a plan in place makes the journey smoother, more empowering, and far less stressful than waiting until a crisis forces a rushed decision.

Having a plan doesn’t mean you have to make big changes immediately. It might be as simple as deciding to bring in a little extra help around the house, or garden, installing grab bars in the bathroom, or even starting to declutter so that when the time comes to downsize, it’s less overwhelming. Having your home assessed for resale, may include a few simple updates to ensure your home sells for top dollar. (Before spending money on any repairs or updates, feel free to ask me first as most updates should be minor nothing expensive or extensive.) Go on a few tours of retirement residences, calculate your costs to stay and or to move. These small actions can create peace of mind and help you move forward with confidence, knowing you’ve prepared yourself for the future in the way that’s best for you.

Whether you decide to stay in your home or explore other living options, the key is having a plan. It’s not about waiting for the perfect moment; it’s about being proactive. If you wait too long, you might miss the window of opportunity where you could have made changes on your own terms. Planning for what’s next allows you to maintain your independence and ensure your needs are met, without feeling like a burden or like things are spiralling out of control.

When you plan, ask for help or guidance, you are living life on your terms, not waiting for circumstances to take that control away from you. Whether you stay or go, having a plan puts you in charge of your next chapter. Are you or know of someone who has questions or is ready to look at rightsizing options? Ask HELM! I’m always just a phone call away! 

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

Because letting go isn’t just practical—it’s personal.

You might not be planning a move right now. Yet for most of us who are lucky enough to live a long life, the day comes when home maintenance starts to feel more like hard work. Whether that moment is approaching or still years away, many of us look around and realize we’ve gathered a lifetime of stuff. And while much of it holds meaning, sorting through it can feel overwhelming—physically and emotionally.

Even when the reasons to rightsize are positive—like simplifying your lifestyle, reducing expenses, or moving closer to family—those changes can stir up fear and resistance. There are many reasons people hesitate to declutter, and all of them are valid. Some worry, “What if I regret letting something go?” or tell themselves, “I’ll deal with it later.” Others are unsure of an item’s value—asking, “Is it worth anything?” or “What if someone in the family wants it?” Sentimental items can be especially difficult to part with, as they often carry the memory of a loved one or a meaningful chapter of life. For those who’ve lived through periods of scarcity, holding on to things “just in case” can feel wise and necessary. There’s also the emotional weight of gifts and inherited items—letting go can feel like dishonouring the person who gave them. And for many, these belongings are deeply tied to identity, whether it’s a past career, a lifelong hobby, or a role once held in the family. On top of all that, the sheer scope of the task can feel overwhelming, making it hard to even know where to start.

But there’s power in starting small—and starting now. Tackling things little by little gives you more control over your future and relieves pressure on your family later on.

Letting go doesn’t erase the past—it honours it. You are not your stuff. And memories don’t live in objects alone. Take a photo of something meaningful and jot down the story it holds. Share those stories with loved ones. Keep what you use or truly love, and let the rest go with gratitude. Now is a wonderful time to start gifting meaningful items to friends and family. Let your loved ones know you're beginning to pare down your belongings, and invite them to share if there's something they would like to have—either now or in the future. If you are not ready to gift it  yet, consider labelling it with their name using masking tape and placing it underneath. It’s a simple gesture that helps ensure special pieces stay connected to the people who will appreciate them most. My husband’s grandmother had done this with a painting he unexpectedly inherited—now proudly displayed at our entrance, it’s a daily reminder of her thoughtfulness.

A few simple, practical steps can help you begin. Block 30 minutes in your calendar—maybe once a week, every other week, or once a month.  Whatever works for your pace. I’ve heard of people who invite a friend or family member to join in, not just to help sort but to reminisce and celebrate the journey as you go.

One easy way to start is get 5 boxes or bins. Write on each one “TOSS” “KEEP” ”SELL” “GIFT  and “NOT SURE.” You don’t have to finish decluttering your house in a day! In fact I don’t recommend more than 30 minutes to an hour at a time. Tackle a small job, like an entrance way, top of a dresser, side entrance or bathroom drawer! If you think certain items may have value, consider getting them appraised and insured.

In next month’s newsletter will share ideas on how to efficiently use these five boxes to keep momentum going from room to room. 

If the thought of decluttering feels overwhelming, you're not alone—and you don’t have to do it by yourself. I’d be happy to connect you with trusted professional organizers who share a compassionate, thoughtful approach and can support you every step of the way.

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

One of the shifts I’m seeing in my work with older adults and their families is the growing trend of multigenerational living. More seniors are planning to move in with their adult children—and often, their grandchildren—and it’s easy to see why. While financial relief is a motivator, what truly sustains these households is connection, purpose, and mutual support.

A couple I’m working with is just about to embark on this journey. They’ve decided to downsize, or as I prefer to say, rightsize and move in with their adult children—offering the same support they once gave their own parents. With the grandkids now grown and out on their own, this new chapter allows them to stay involved in family life, while also having the care and connection that will help them age in place successfully.

In many families, the roles shift over time. Grandparents who once helped with daycare or after-school pickups are now receiving support themselves. Their adult children are creating space—physically and emotionally—for them to feel safe, supported, and valued at home.

That’s what I see again and again. These homes become places where support flows both ways—whether it’s help with appointments, shared costs, or simply time spent together. Roles evolve, but the heart of family stays strong.

Multigenerational living isn’t for everyone. It takes planning, flexibility, and open communication. But when it works, it’s not just practical—it’s powerful.

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

Estate planning is more than just drafting a will—it’s about ensuring your wishes are honoured, protecting your loved ones, and minimizing potential conflicts after you’re gone. As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®), I’ve unfortunately met people who, as my mom used to say, “didn’t have their ducks in a row.” The outcome can be stressful, sad, and entirely unnecessary. In British Columbia, estate planning can include a will, power of attorney, representation agreement, and advanced care directive, each one playing its own role in covering all the bases.

What Is Estate Planning? Estate planning involves the process of organizing your assets, appointing trusted individuals to make decisions on your behalf, and setting instructions for how you’d like your estate managed and distributed. A well-developed plan also typically includes various estate planning documents, such as wills (including a living will), powers of attorney, a list of estate assets, and funeral and burial wishes. 

1. Will: Outlines how your assets will be distributed after death.

2. Power of Attorney: Appoints someone to manage your financial affairs if you become unable to do so.

   In British Columbia, two types of power attorneys deal with finances and property: general power of attorney and enduring power of attorney.  

3. Representation Agreement: is where you write your instructions and name someone to make your health and personal care decisions if you become incapable.

4. Advance Care Directive: Specifies your preferences for medical treatment in case you cannot communicate your wishes.

This all sounds morbid I know, yet important.  Without a comprehensive estate plan, BC’s laws will determine how your assets are distributed, which may not align with your wishes. Estate planning can help you minimize taxes and probate fees, can provide a philanthropic legacy, and peace of mind as well as reduce the risk of family disputes, protect vulnerable beneficiaries, such as minor children or dependent adults and ensure your health care and financial preferences are carried through with. 

When it comes to selecting a lawyer, choose a lawyer who specializes in estate planning and is familiar with BC’s      specific laws and regulations. Seek referrals from friends, family, or trusted advisors who have had a positive experience.  If you need guidance or referrals to trusted estate planning professionals in BC, feel free to reach out—I’d be happy to connect you with vetted lawyers you can speak with.

Estate planning is not a one-size-fits-all process. It’s an opportunity to make thoughtful decisions about your legacy and provide peace of mind for those you love.

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

June 1-7 is B.C. Seniors’ Week and a time to celebrate, recognize and honour older people in our province.

This is a time to celebrate seniors and their many contributions – providing an opportunity to acknowledge and celebrate the integral part seniors play in communities across British Columbia.

Every community will be hosting events this week and beyond! Check with your senior centres and rec centres! 

We all know someone whose wisdom and heart have made a difference in our lives. Showing respect and gratitude to the older adults in our lives is simple, and there are countless ways to express our appreciation for their contributions. Here are a few thoughtful ideas:

• Offer a heartfelt “thank you”

• Reach out with a visit, a phone call-  just to check in and say “hello”

• Lend a hand with errands or daily tasks

• Assist with outdoor chores

Read BC Seniors Advocate Dan Levitt’s statement.

SATURDAY JUNE 14 9-12pm
I’m proud to be one of the sponsors for this year’s Ridge Meadows Seniors Society Fundraiser Shred Event — All funds raised will benefit the seniors society. As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist, I meet many people who are looking for a safe way to dispose of their paperwork. Here' your chance!
Whether you're:

Spring cleaning

Downsizing

Preparing for a move
Protecting against identity theft
or just ready to clear out that file cabinet, here's your chance to get "a to do" off your list all while helping a great cause! Location is in the parking lot at the Ridge Meadows Seniors Centre's Maple Ridge location at 12150 224th Street. No need to remove staples, paper clips or elastics.
Shredding done ON-SITE by RecordXpress.
All funds raised directly benefit the Ridge Meadows Seniors Society, a non profit society offering services, shared experiences and advancing the well being of adults 55+ in Maple Ridge and Pitt Meadows.
Need help lifting boxes or getting them to the centre? Ask HELM! We can assist you! Call 604 730 2600!
Curious about Ridge Meadows Seniors Society at what they offer? Check them out online or stop in for a visit and become a member!  https://rmssseniors.org/

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Buyers will view properties online and many more throughout their search. They’re educated, savvy, and experienced by the time they see your home. Pricing is one of the most critical factors in the selling process.

Understanding the market is key. For example, I analyze market data daily to identify trends and position your home favourably against the competition. Pricing your home isn’t just about the numbers—it’s about timing, psychology, and strategy. In a complex market like Greater Vancouver, setting the right price can be the difference between a quick sale and a lingering listing. Here’s what sellers need to know:

Start with a Comparative Market Analysis—Done Right

A professional Comparative Market Analysis (CMA) is the foundation of any smart pricing strategy. But not all CMAs are created equal. Knowing which homes to compare—and which to leave out—is both an art and a science. It requires a deep understanding of neighbourhood nuances, market trends, and buyer behaviour.  I go beyond MLS data. I take a custom approach to each property, assessing curb appeal, location, and other factors that affect value—like views, updates, suite potential, street location, and even future development potential just to name a few. These factors may not show up in data! Research is imperative.  A well-done CMA isn’t just a report—it’s a clear picture of where your home fits in today’s market. And it’s the essential first step in pricing it right.

Ready to talk about your home’s unique position in the market? I’m here to provide guidance, insights, and a custom approach. I’m always just a phone call away. 

Skip the slippers and the bathrobes. I mean, they’re nice, but is that really what moms want? As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®), I spend a lot of time talking to older adults and their families, and one thing I hear over and over is that they don’t want more stuff. So, what do moms really cherish? Your time.

It doesn’t have to be complicated or expensive. A simple stroll around the block. Coffee together. Lunch out. Or just a good old-fashioned visit at the kitchen table. Those moments of connection matter so much more than any gift.

Personally, from my sons, I still treasure a handmade card, flowers (even dandelions) picked from the garden, and a handmade card. Throw in burnt toast and runny eggs for breakfast and I’m in heaven!

So, this Mother’s Day, think about what really matters. Make a phone call. Plan a visit. Spend some time. That’s the stuff that lasts.

And if you do want to give a gift, consider something simple but meaningful. A plant—easy to display, no fussing for a vase, and it lasts longer. Or maybe some tech help, like a lesson on how to use ‘the Google’ as my dad requested or how to FaceTime with the grandkids. Practical, helpful, and thoughtful.

Wishing everyone a meaningful Mother’s Day. Whether you're a mom, remembering a mom, or spending time with someone who has been like a mom.