Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) , I often hear: "One day we will tackle the decluttering.” “There is no rush, we will move when ready." “One day, I’ll have grab bars installed in the bathroom.” “One day, we will tour retirement communities.” Many people hold onto the hope that, at some point in the future, the perfect moment will arrive—when everything will line up and the decision to move, downsize, or make necessary home adjustments will feel clear and easy. I’m here to tell you from years of experience, there is no “perfect” time. The clouds don’t part, and a choir doesn’t sing when it’s time to act. That moment doesn’t arrive on its own, and waiting for it can leave you caught off guard when things inevitably change. It’s easy to ignore signs—whether it’s the growing difficulty in getting around a home, realizing it’s harder to keep up with daily tasks, or noticing that tasks you once did easily are becoming unsafe. The truth is, it’s often easier to pretend that everything’s fine. You don’t want to burden others, and you certainly don’t want your family or friends to feel like you’re not capable. Asking for help, planning ahead, and making decisions before a crisis forces your hand doesn’t make you weak. In fact, it puts you in control. As my mom used to say, “You’re in the driver’s seat.”  

I’m currently working with a vibrant client who's taking a proactive approach to rightsizing—we’ve explored 55+ communities, toured a retirement residence, and I’ve even had the joy of meeting their fun-loving extended family; having a plan in place makes the journey smoother, more empowering, and far less stressful than waiting until a crisis forces a rushed decision.

Having a plan doesn’t mean you have to make big changes immediately. It might be as simple as deciding to bring in a little extra help around the house, or garden, installing grab bars in the bathroom, or even starting to declutter so that when the time comes to downsize, it’s less overwhelming. Having your home assessed for resale, may include a few simple updates to ensure your home sells for top dollar. (Before spending money on any repairs or updates, feel free to ask me first as most updates should be minor nothing expensive or extensive.) Go on a few tours of retirement residences, calculate your costs to stay and or to move. These small actions can create peace of mind and help you move forward with confidence, knowing you’ve prepared yourself for the future in the way that’s best for you.

Whether you decide to stay in your home or explore other living options, the key is having a plan. It’s not about waiting for the perfect moment; it’s about being proactive. If you wait too long, you might miss the window of opportunity where you could have made changes on your own terms. Planning for what’s next allows you to maintain your independence and ensure your needs are met, without feeling like a burden or like things are spiralling out of control.

When you plan, ask for help or guidance, you are living life on your terms, not waiting for circumstances to take that control away from you. Whether you stay or go, having a plan puts you in charge of your next chapter. Are you or know of someone who has questions or is ready to look at rightsizing options? Ask HELM! I’m always just a phone call away! 

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

Because letting go isn’t just practical—it’s personal.

You might not be planning a move right now. Yet for most of us who are lucky enough to live a long life, the day comes when home maintenance starts to feel more like hard work. Whether that moment is approaching or still years away, many of us look around and realize we’ve gathered a lifetime of stuff. And while much of it holds meaning, sorting through it can feel overwhelming—physically and emotionally.

Even when the reasons to rightsize are positive—like simplifying your lifestyle, reducing expenses, or moving closer to family—those changes can stir up fear and resistance. There are many reasons people hesitate to declutter, and all of them are valid. Some worry, “What if I regret letting something go?” or tell themselves, “I’ll deal with it later.” Others are unsure of an item’s value—asking, “Is it worth anything?” or “What if someone in the family wants it?” Sentimental items can be especially difficult to part with, as they often carry the memory of a loved one or a meaningful chapter of life. For those who’ve lived through periods of scarcity, holding on to things “just in case” can feel wise and necessary. There’s also the emotional weight of gifts and inherited items—letting go can feel like dishonouring the person who gave them. And for many, these belongings are deeply tied to identity, whether it’s a past career, a lifelong hobby, or a role once held in the family. On top of all that, the sheer scope of the task can feel overwhelming, making it hard to even know where to start.

But there’s power in starting small—and starting now. Tackling things little by little gives you more control over your future and relieves pressure on your family later on.

Letting go doesn’t erase the past—it honours it. You are not your stuff. And memories don’t live in objects alone. Take a photo of something meaningful and jot down the story it holds. Share those stories with loved ones. Keep what you use or truly love, and let the rest go with gratitude. Now is a wonderful time to start gifting meaningful items to friends and family. Let your loved ones know you're beginning to pare down your belongings, and invite them to share if there's something they would like to have—either now or in the future. If you are not ready to gift it  yet, consider labelling it with their name using masking tape and placing it underneath. It’s a simple gesture that helps ensure special pieces stay connected to the people who will appreciate them most. My husband’s grandmother had done this with a painting he unexpectedly inherited—now proudly displayed at our entrance, it’s a daily reminder of her thoughtfulness.

A few simple, practical steps can help you begin. Block 30 minutes in your calendar—maybe once a week, every other week, or once a month.  Whatever works for your pace. I’ve heard of people who invite a friend or family member to join in, not just to help sort but to reminisce and celebrate the journey as you go.

One easy way to start is get 5 boxes or bins. Write on each one “TOSS” “KEEP” ”SELL” “GIFT  and “NOT SURE.” You don’t have to finish decluttering your house in a day! In fact I don’t recommend more than 30 minutes to an hour at a time. Tackle a small job, like an entrance way, top of a dresser, side entrance or bathroom drawer! If you think certain items may have value, consider getting them appraised and insured.

In next month’s newsletter will share ideas on how to efficiently use these five boxes to keep momentum going from room to room. 

If the thought of decluttering feels overwhelming, you're not alone—and you don’t have to do it by yourself. I’d be happy to connect you with trusted professional organizers who share a compassionate, thoughtful approach and can support you every step of the way.

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

One of the shifts I’m seeing in my work with older adults and their families is the growing trend of multigenerational living. More seniors are planning to move in with their adult children—and often, their grandchildren—and it’s easy to see why. While financial relief is a motivator, what truly sustains these households is connection, purpose, and mutual support.

A couple I’m working with is just about to embark on this journey. They’ve decided to downsize, or as I prefer to say, rightsize and move in with their adult children—offering the same support they once gave their own parents. With the grandkids now grown and out on their own, this new chapter allows them to stay involved in family life, while also having the care and connection that will help them age in place successfully.

In many families, the roles shift over time. Grandparents who once helped with daycare or after-school pickups are now receiving support themselves. Their adult children are creating space—physically and emotionally—for them to feel safe, supported, and valued at home.

That’s what I see again and again. These homes become places where support flows both ways—whether it’s help with appointments, shared costs, or simply time spent together. Roles evolve, but the heart of family stays strong.

Multigenerational living isn’t for everyone. It takes planning, flexibility, and open communication. But when it works, it’s not just practical—it’s powerful.

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

Estate planning is more than just drafting a will—it’s about ensuring your wishes are honoured, protecting your loved ones, and minimizing potential conflicts after you’re gone. As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®), I’ve unfortunately met people who, as my mom used to say, “didn’t have their ducks in a row.” The outcome can be stressful, sad, and entirely unnecessary. In British Columbia, estate planning can include a will, power of attorney, representation agreement, and advanced care directive, each one playing its own role in covering all the bases.

What Is Estate Planning? Estate planning involves the process of organizing your assets, appointing trusted individuals to make decisions on your behalf, and setting instructions for how you’d like your estate managed and distributed. A well-developed plan also typically includes various estate planning documents, such as wills (including a living will), powers of attorney, a list of estate assets, and funeral and burial wishes. 

1. Will: Outlines how your assets will be distributed after death.

2. Power of Attorney: Appoints someone to manage your financial affairs if you become unable to do so.

   In British Columbia, two types of power attorneys deal with finances and property: general power of attorney and enduring power of attorney.  

3. Representation Agreement: is where you write your instructions and name someone to make your health and personal care decisions if you become incapable.

4. Advance Care Directive: Specifies your preferences for medical treatment in case you cannot communicate your wishes.

This all sounds morbid I know, yet important.  Without a comprehensive estate plan, BC’s laws will determine how your assets are distributed, which may not align with your wishes. Estate planning can help you minimize taxes and probate fees, can provide a philanthropic legacy, and peace of mind as well as reduce the risk of family disputes, protect vulnerable beneficiaries, such as minor children or dependent adults and ensure your health care and financial preferences are carried through with. 

When it comes to selecting a lawyer, choose a lawyer who specializes in estate planning and is familiar with BC’s      specific laws and regulations. Seek referrals from friends, family, or trusted advisors who have had a positive experience.  If you need guidance or referrals to trusted estate planning professionals in BC, feel free to reach out—I’d be happy to connect you with vetted lawyers you can speak with.

Estate planning is not a one-size-fits-all process. It’s an opportunity to make thoughtful decisions about your legacy and provide peace of mind for those you love.

Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

June 1-7 is B.C. Seniors’ Week and a time to celebrate, recognize and honour older people in our province.

This is a time to celebrate seniors and their many contributions – providing an opportunity to acknowledge and celebrate the integral part seniors play in communities across British Columbia.

Every community will be hosting events this week and beyond! Check with your senior centres and rec centres! 

We all know someone whose wisdom and heart have made a difference in our lives. Showing respect and gratitude to the older adults in our lives is simple, and there are countless ways to express our appreciation for their contributions. Here are a few thoughtful ideas:

• Offer a heartfelt “thank you”

• Reach out with a visit, a phone call-  just to check in and say “hello”

• Lend a hand with errands or daily tasks

• Assist with outdoor chores

Read BC Seniors Advocate Dan Levitt’s statement.

SATURDAY JUNE 14 9-12pm
I’m proud to be one of the sponsors for this year’s Ridge Meadows Seniors Society Fundraiser Shred Event — All funds raised will benefit the seniors society. As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist, I meet many people who are looking for a safe way to dispose of their paperwork. Here' your chance!
Whether you're:

Spring cleaning

Downsizing

Preparing for a move
Protecting against identity theft
or just ready to clear out that file cabinet, here's your chance to get "a to do" off your list all while helping a great cause! Location is in the parking lot at the Ridge Meadows Seniors Centre's Maple Ridge location at 12150 224th Street. No need to remove staples, paper clips or elastics.
Shredding done ON-SITE by RecordXpress.
All funds raised directly benefit the Ridge Meadows Seniors Society, a non profit society offering services, shared experiences and advancing the well being of adults 55+ in Maple Ridge and Pitt Meadows.
Need help lifting boxes or getting them to the centre? Ask HELM! We can assist you! Call 604 730 2600!
Curious about Ridge Meadows Seniors Society at what they offer? Check them out online or stop in for a visit and become a member!  https://rmssseniors.org/

This is the one! RARE EXECUTIVE WATERFRONT 3 bed/3 bath duplex townhouse on one of the largest corner lots in the sought after SHORELINE Community in Pitt Meadows with the PRIMARY BEDROOM and walk-in laundry room on the MAIN FLOOR. Year round Fraser River views, access to waterfront walking/bike trails, south facing private backyard with custom patio decking & 2 gas hookups. Inside features include 2 gas fireplaces, crown mouldings, custom kitchen with high end SS appliances, California Shutters, radiant heated engineered hardwood floors, double garage & extra parking. Visit this exceptional home in person at the Open House Sat May 24 & Sun May 25 1-4pm or ask your Realtor for a private viewing. Watch the video and interactive virtual tour for a closer look of this stunning home and location!

Buyers will view properties online and many more throughout their search. They’re educated, savvy, and experienced by the time they see your home. Pricing is one of the most critical factors in the selling process.

Understanding the market is key. For example, I analyze market data daily to identify trends and position your home favourably against the competition. Pricing your home isn’t just about the numbers—it’s about timing, psychology, and strategy. In a complex market like Greater Vancouver, setting the right price can be the difference between a quick sale and a lingering listing. Here’s what sellers need to know:

Start with a Comparative Market Analysis—Done Right

A professional Comparative Market Analysis (CMA) is the foundation of any smart pricing strategy. But not all CMAs are created equal. Knowing which homes to compare—and which to leave out—is both an art and a science. It requires a deep understanding of neighbourhood nuances, market trends, and buyer behaviour.  I go beyond MLS data. I take a custom approach to each property, assessing curb appeal, location, and other factors that affect value—like views, updates, suite potential, street location, and even future development potential just to name a few. These factors may not show up in data! Research is imperative.  A well-done CMA isn’t just a report—it’s a clear picture of where your home fits in today’s market. And it’s the essential first step in pricing it right.

Ready to talk about your home’s unique position in the market? I’m here to provide guidance, insights, and a custom approach. I’m always just a phone call away. 

Skip the slippers and the bathrobes. I mean, they’re nice, but is that really what moms want? As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®), I spend a lot of time talking to older adults and their families, and one thing I hear over and over is that they don’t want more stuff. So, what do moms really cherish? Your time.

It doesn’t have to be complicated or expensive. A simple stroll around the block. Coffee together. Lunch out. Or just a good old-fashioned visit at the kitchen table. Those moments of connection matter so much more than any gift.

Personally, from my sons, I still treasure a handmade card, flowers (even dandelions) picked from the garden, and a handmade card. Throw in burnt toast and runny eggs for breakfast and I’m in heaven!

So, this Mother’s Day, think about what really matters. Make a phone call. Plan a visit. Spend some time. That’s the stuff that lasts.

And if you do want to give a gift, consider something simple but meaningful. A plant—easy to display, no fussing for a vase, and it lasts longer. Or maybe some tech help, like a lesson on how to use ‘the Google’ as my dad requested or how to FaceTime with the grandkids. Practical, helpful, and thoughtful.

Wishing everyone a meaningful Mother’s Day. Whether you're a mom, remembering a mom, or spending time with someone who has been like a mom. 

Flipping Through the North Shore Seniors Directory: Look Who’s In It! 

As a Seniors Real Estate Specialist®, I understand how important it is for older adults and their families to have access to the right resources. Whether you're looking to age in place successfully, planning a move, or simply seeking community connections, knowing where to find support can make all the difference.

One valuable resource that I recommend is your local Senior Directory, which is often found in senior centres across communities. These directories provide vital information about services, activities, and events that can help you or a loved one stay engaged and well-informed.

Why Senior Centres Are Essential

Senior centres are excellent resources for older adults, offering a wide variety of activities, workshops, and support services. From fitness classes to social events, they are designed to create a sense of community, encourage socialization, and provide information on everything from healthcare to housing options.

Looking for a Senior Centre or Directory?

Most communities will have a senior centre, and it’s there that you'll typically find the local senior directory. These directories are free and serve as a handy guide to services available in your area. If you're having trouble locating a senior centre or directory for yourself or a loved one, just ask—I'd be happy to help you get one!

Connecting with your local senior centre and utilizing the directory can be an important step in staying informed and making sure you're accessing the services that will best support you and your family.

A few years ago, I was referred to a lovely couple navigating a challenging time. The husband had been diagnosed with a progressive condition that would impact his mobility. His wife was stepping into the role of caregiver. They believed their only option was to sell their beloved home and move to a one-level property.

We chatted for a while, and through that conversation, I learned something important: their adult children lived very close by and were already offering regular support. That kind of built-in community is priceless.

I asked a simple question: “Do you want to age in place?”
They said yes—but explained they didn’t think it was possible. They assumed the condition would eventually make staying in their home unsafe, and that moving was the only realistic solution.

But with the right plan, aging in place can absolutely be a viable option.

I suggested a home adaptation plan, starting with consulting a professional to ensure the layout could be modified safely. Drawing from my design background, I proposed:

• Converting the large den into a main-floor bedroom

• Relocating the washer and dryer upstairs for accessibility

• Installing grab bars throughout key areas—hallways, entry, bathroom, and kitchen

• Removing the tub and having a professional install a walk-in shower directly across from the new bedroom

I also stressed the importance of involving their adult children in the conversation. Their support could be vital—not just physically, but emotionally. I introduced the wife to a caregiver support group and shared resources on respite care and other community supports they hadn’t known about.

That was three years ago. They’re still happily living in their home—with greater safety, confidence, and a clear plan for the future. They've been gradually decluttering, giving away items intentionally, and have even started visiting nearby retirement communities to stay informed about future options.

All of this became possible because they asked for help, were open to new ideas, and made a plan early—before a crisis forced their hand. If you're wondering whether aging in place is right for you or someone you love, ask. The first step is a conversation. Help is available—and asking for it might just open the door to more options than you imagined. Aging in place isn’t just about staying home—it’s about maintaining connection, dignity, and a sense of control. Knowing whether aging in place is truly an option takes thoughtful planning and honest reflection—because for many, it will not be a long-term solution. Understanding both the limitations of the home and the evolving needs of the person is an important part of making the right decision, with care and clarity.