Written by Janet Helm, Realtor® and Seniors Real Estate Specialist (SRES®) 

The holidays bring a mix of emotions. For some older adults, this season is joyful, yet for others it isn’t. Many older adults don’t want or need more things. What people, older or not value most is connection, laughter, and shared moments with friends and family. How we spend time with people during the holidays is just one way of showing care that can continue throughout the year.

The way we greet older adults matters. Asking how they are can not always provide a happy answer. Instead, try something light and welcoming, like “Nice to see you,” “I am glad we can spend a few minutes together,” or “I have been looking forward to seeing you.” Small shifts in the way we connect make visits feel cheerful and inviting.

A short visit is often the best gift of all. Twenty minutes of conversation can mean more than anything wrapped in a box. Bring a warm smile and perhaps a small treat. Homemade or store bought holiday cookies are always welcome. If they have a pet, a small token of a toy can be a sweet addition. A precooked meal or something they can pop into the freezer is both practical and thoughtful. If you would rather visit than cook, consider sharing a cup of coffee or tea. You can sit together for a few minutes or go for a short stroll. 

A holiday plant feels cheerful and seasonal, and if you choose to bring flowers, make sure they are already in a vase or arranged so they do not have to search for one. Family photos are treasures as well. If they have a framed photo of you that is a few years old, bring a current one. This simple update shows love and presence, and the real gift is the conversation that follows and the time you spend together.

In the end, older or not, we value connection, friendship, and shared moments. A visit, a laugh, a walk, a coffee together, all of these gestures show care during the holidays and reflect the friendships we celebrate all year long. These thoughtful gestures are the gifts that stay in the heart long after the season fades.