A few years ago, I was referred to a lovely couple navigating a challenging time. The husband had been diagnosed with a progressive condition that would impact his mobility. His wife was stepping into the role of caregiver. They believed their only option was to sell their beloved home and move to a one-level property.
We chatted for a while, and through that conversation, I learned something important: their adult children lived very close by and were already offering regular support. That kind of built-in community is priceless.
I asked a simple question: “Do you want to age in place?”
They said yes—but explained they didn’t think it was possible. They assumed the condition would eventually make staying in their home unsafe, and that moving was the only realistic solution.
But with the right plan, aging in place can absolutely be a viable option.
I suggested a home adaptation plan, starting with consulting a professional to ensure the layout could be modified safely. Drawing from my design background, I proposed:
Converting the large den into a main-floor bedroom
Relocating the washer and dryer upstairs for accessibility
Installing grab bars throughout key areas—hallways, entry, bathroom, and kitchen
Removing the tub and having a professional install a walk-in shower directly across from the new bedroom
I also stressed the importance of involving their adult children in the conversation. Their support could be vital—not just physically, but emotionally. I introduced the wife to a caregiver support group and shared resources on respite care and other community supports they hadn’t known about.
That was three years ago. They’re still happily living in their home—with greater safety, confidence, and a clear plan for the future. They've been gradually decluttering, giving away items intentionally, and have even started visiting nearby retirement communities to stay informed about future options.
All of this became possible because they asked for help, were open to new ideas, and made a plan early—before a crisis forced their hand. If you're wondering whether aging in place is right for you or someone you love, ask. The first step is a conversation. Help is available—and asking for it might just open the door to more options than you imagined. Aging in place isn’t just about staying home—it’s about maintaining connection, dignity, and a sense of control. Knowing whether aging in place is truly an option takes thoughtful planning and honest reflection—because for many, it will not be a long-term solution. Understanding both the limitations of the home and the evolving needs of the person is an important part of making the right decision, with care and clarity.
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